Martin Koby - April 20, 1999
Confrontations with Mother
Uh, she must have been quite a woman, then, even though she, she...
I just try to figure sometimes out, for--with--what kept them together?
What do you think?
I don't know. I think they had a--they--there was something in the other that they liked or admired or could handle or something. I don't know. He used to go to concert and she'd never go. He used to go to all kinds of gatherings, she stayed home.
So that's the...
And when he died, she was devastated.
There was a sharp contrast in...
Yes.
...backgrounds and...
and behavior...
...behaviors.
and action.
Hm.
So when this war comes around you know, what held them you know, in a--such--in such a tough situation?
What do you think?
I don't know.
Just--yeah.
Is it love? I don't know. Admiration for each other? I don't know. Determination I'm going to survive come hell or high water, or whatever it is?
Maybe a cultural tradition.
Maybe a cultural tradition, no divorce...
They just don't have divorce.
...no parting, I don't know.
Hm.
But they never argued about you know, whatever it is. They just kept pushing, kept on going.
You, you, you said that you, you had a uh, um, a couple of rare confrontations where you spoke your mind about this. Did, did--was it...
Those are the two con...
Was it routine...
...two great confrontations.
...to have conversations, to talk, talk for ???...
Oh, yeah, we used to talk.
You talked a lot.
We used to talk. You know, I used to ask her questions and she was um, she was--sometimes she would answer, sometimes she wouldn't. She'd say, "Why do you have about it? Why do you bother? You know, forget it! Don't think about it!" You know...
Questions about the war, you mean?
Yeah. I wanted to know how this--all this--how did--you know, like, you--the question you asked me, how did they decide to go to Stark? How did they decide to go to Dvorjak? How did they decide to go to Zummer? What was, what was it?
Last time there was a hidden children meeting...
Yeah.
...there was a, a young woman ??? who came...
Yeah, I was there. I was--yeah, I was there.
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